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CODEPENDECY -PART 2

CODEPENDENCY PATTERNS. Laura is a lovely lady I met while on a work trip. We had been assigned the same house by our host. She was very vocal about her journey of healing. She shared her recovery journey from codependence. When I asked her if she was okay with me using her story in my […]

DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS.

    DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS – DYSFUNCTION ATTRACTS DYSFUNCTION. This blog is special because Jeremy called me to ask if I could share his story so as to help any person struggling with dysfunctional relationships to find themselves, heal their own pain and raise children who will attract healthier people so that they stop generational relationship […]

BREAKING NEWS OF DEATH TO A CHILD.

Supporting Grieving Children One day I walked into a school compound, I had some business to do in that school. The children were on lunch break and I could see so many children carrying their plates out of the serving area to the dining hall. On one corner was Steph who was seated alone, looking […]

COPARENTING CHILDREN AFTER SEPARATION/DIVORCE

COPARENTING CHILDREN AFTER SEPARATION/DIVORCE OR IN CASES WHERE PARENTS NEVER GOT MARRIED. I was seated playing with children and listening to their stories. When it was Karla’s turn to tell her story, she narrated how she had fun and enjoyed the many places that her daddy had taken her to tour. She told stories of […]

ADDICTION TO NEGATIVE EMOTIONS.

Addiction to negative emotions – were you raised in chaos? As I walked into the building where I was going to see a specialist, I met a gentleman walking away while a lady ran after him. When the lady realized that she couldn’t catch-up with the man, she sat on the floor crying wondering why […]

SEX IN MARRIAGE -Part 1

SEX IN MARRIAGE – PART 1. IS SEX AN ISSUE IN MARRIAGE? One day while attending some group workout in some public space, I got to hear so many stories about how lack of flexibility is a “sex killer”.  The lack of flexibility is a story for another day. One particular man spoke about how […]

DISCIPLINE IN EARLY CHILDHOOD

Discipline in early childhood The formative years are the first years of formation which are 0-6 years. These are the years where behavior or a child’s character are formed. These are the years that shape a child’s perspective of the world. The formative years form the foundation of health or dysfunctionality of the individual in […]

LEAVING HOME, LIVING YOUR LIFE.

HOW TO TELL WHETHER YOU HAVE LEFT HOME I sat in a hotel waiting for my friend and on the next table was a couple shouting at each other. The source of conflict was that the man had been sending money to his family of origin while the wife and children depended on the wife’s […]

TRAINING SKILLS IN CHILDREN

TRAINING SKILLS IN CHILDREN. One time I lived near a neighbor who would issue all kinds of threat on his four-year-old daughter and his six year old son every night. One day while she was using the rod to “discipline” them for not eating their evening meal well, I decided to engage and get to […]

SEX EDUCATION FOR YOUNGER CHILDREN

Few years ago, I bumped into young children between three years and four years, well known to me. the boy and the girl were kissing on the lips. I observed them for about thirty minutes as they consistently kissed. I called the two of them and started to engage in a kids talk. While in […]